Learn Why New Years Resolutions are so hard to keep
“By the time we are 35 years old, 95 percent of who we are is a collection of
subconscious programs, thoughts, beliefs, feelings and behaviors
that execute automatically, without our conscious awareness.”
Dr. Joe Dispenza PHD "Making Your Mind Matter"
Have you ever arrived at your destination and realized that you don't remember driving? Have you ever forgotten your PIN number but when the PIN pad was in front of you, your hand just put in the data without conscious effort? Have you ever found yourself in the same argument over and over?
More importantly, do you perform the same unwanted behaviors despite efforts to change?
Sometimes it seems as if these behaviors have a mind of their own…. And they do… The subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind is the part that is responsible for tasks like digestion, muscle contractions that keep us upright, performing repetitive actions like walking, Etc. Note that we do all of these things without thinking.
The subconscious also executes automatic behaviors that have been programmed during childhood, via repetition at any age, and/or any event with a high emotional quotient, like trauma
One of the most interesting things about the subconscious mind is its use of the body. You know you are running a subconscious program when your body knows how to do something better than your mind - like the PIN pad in the example above.
And, almost without fail, when consciously executing a different behavior, the body sends uncomfortable signals seemingly everywhere. This is how habits stay habits.
Another distinguishing feature of the subconscious mind is that when stimulus is received, the corresponding program automatically executes, IN ITS ENTIRETY. Once the program begins execution, halting is like trying to eat 1 potato chip.
So the trick is to gain conscious control BEFORE our automatic programs begin. Remember, once the program starts, it usually finishes.
To get your brain out of the subconscious, you must get executive control to the logic center AKA the prefrontal cortex. A hack for this is to say your phone number (or any number) backwards a couple of times. This requires capabilities the subconscious doesn't possess, so executive control is released to the prefrontal cortex. (Note Once your number gets memorized backwards it won't work as well, so it'll be time for a new number.)
Now you can choose, then use any of your tools.
I must say, however, that I am surprised at how difficult it is to even remember to do this in the heat of the moment. It's taken me a year to just be able to reliably interrupt most of my automatic programs.
So persistence, desire, and willingness to experience discomfort are absolute musts.
Wishing you and yours the best of everything in 2020!
And a Brain Hack to Help